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Thursday, April 12, 2012
Thank you to the Rocket Scientist!
I recently went on a trip to Key West that was meant to be the unveiling of the skinny bitch that lives inside me. Unfortunately she is still in there probably suffocating on the Key Lime Pie and BO's Fried Grouper sandwiches I fed her while I was there. I was hoping they would choke her but she is still there hammering to get out of her prison ! Regardless I was happy with my sandwich...until today when I sat in my class and read a text that made me realize something that I realize still now while I cry to my computer..No matter how smart you are, or kind, or witty or pretty or did I mention kind?...people will still see you first as FAT. It's sad really. Even the people who love you see this. The world is run by skinny people. Skinny people that at this moment I would like to eat so they can not remind me how weak I am. Skinny people who can wear more of the shit in my closet than I can because they look more like the person who used to wear those clothes than I do ...and skinny people who I am just plain fucking jealous of!!
I don't ask to be this way. Aside from the occasional guilty pleasure I have been good. I also thanks to my new friend have a gym buddy that keeps me at the gym most days. She is spectacular and I love her to pieces! It's not like I don't try to be healthy, yet still I'm fat. For the person who pointed that out you are correct! Pat yourself on the back because you my friend are clearly are a rocket scientist for discovering that I'm fat. Without your honesty I don't think I would have known that. While that may not be true,I may have sat for a few more weeks not stepping up my game. So with that said I'd like to send a huge thank you to the "rocket scientist" for reminding me of my goals. I realize that all may sound like sarcasm to a well trained ear but it's not. I really do now want the body above more than I ever have. I imagine that will be painful but screw it...so was labor and I did that without any painkillers at all.
I know I sound like I am really excited about this...I'm really not. I hate exercise. I do feel less like a psychopath when I work out...less deranged and all but I don't enjoy it at all. I'd be far more excited about a root canal or bikini waxes than this. Feel free to download and follow me on MyFitnessPal under tova1996. I'm generally very forthcoming about my snacking ...right down to the half a bag of Pretzel M&M's I ate yesterday. Turns out chocolate does not actually cure the blues!!!
My point today is this...you are smart and funny and maybe even pretty...and you're also fat! Stop being fat and start being pretty and smart and funny and give the finger to all the rocket scientists out there...half of which probably used to be fat too!!!!
Saturday, October 8, 2011
The 3, 4, 5 Plan
Life for me is and probably will always be a rollercoaster. I am like I said, honest to a fault. This fault until recently never transcended to myself. While I do love rollercoasters, as I have mentioned before , the weight coaster is one I want to get off of, but to do so I realize I have to ride several other coasters and get off of those before I can land safe and sound on my skinny feet. I really thought the drama coaster would be the hardest to get off of for me. I am definitely a drama queen. I really think my parents had the right idea by putting me in acting classes as a child....unfortunately they didn't combine that great idea with the joys of fat camp and Kirstie Alley beat me to the punch on being a "Fat Actress". Surprisingly over the past couple of months this coaster slowed...not to a full stop but enough for me to jump ship. It's like my Fairy Godmother week by week sprinkled some magic fairy dust on me until I just realized that so much of the Angst I had felt about my life...about my fathers passing and about my relationship with both of my parents had turned to peace. PLease don't misunderstand. I am still sad about things but my anger and my projection of that into my life is barely visible anymore. I will always be a little dramatic but drama takes up time...and if you want to lose weight you can't waist time focusing on petty shit. Get off the Drama Coaster and move on over to the Hobby Coaster.
I always thought that it was all about diet and excercise but then it occured to me that when you are a stress eater you might want to have a plan. My Jenny Craig consultant likes to say.."Nobody Plans to Fail but you will fail without a plan". She obviously means this to correlate to my meal plan which I do highly recommend writing out. It takes the thinking out of things. In my case I needed a plan for my hands. You know those things at the end up your arms responsible for shoveling fat into your mouth. Find something to keeo them busy. Heck...use them to write comments on this blog or to recommend it to friends. Personally I crochet yarlmulkas and blankets for all my friends having babies. It makes me feel better about the fact that even when 8 months pregnant they are still thinner than me and it makes them know how much they are loved. Trust me....more satisfaction comes from that then eating a brownie.
The most difficult coaster for me is the motivation Coaster. I want to be thin but I have a really hard time staying motivated to excercise. One does not go without the other. A few weeks ago I tried crossfit. If you do this regularly, you are a super hero..probably a skinny one at that. I managed to get through the class only vomiting once and then spent the next 4.5 days trying to convince myself that one day I would be able to sit down on the toilette again without screaming out in pain as my legs buckle beneath me. Eventually I made it back to the gym for a spin class...and that has been it. Needless to say I am still riding this coaster....over and over. The goal this week will be to hit the gym 3 times....3 times for 3 weeks and then at week 4 I am going to move to 4 times for 4 weeks...and so on. I think you get the picture. I have a lot of excuses in my life right now. I am a single mom, I am in school full time....I have my hair to wash....anything can become and excuse. I'll be in touch on the progress of my goal....in the meantime...keep the faith.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
Return of The Phat Girl
Friday, July 29, 2011
I Once Was Lost But Now Am Found
Thursday, July 28, 2011
This Is The Face Of Fat!!
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Cutting Deep
Maybe next time I will pretend that I am in labor and just start screaming " you bastard" " You did this to me" " I WANT ICE CHIPS....NOW!!!" It might work for me but my guess I would lose my gym privileges and my trainer rather quickly.
That being said I have felt for awhile like I needed an end goal...a bit of a challenge to motivate me...in the delivery room the end goal was being a mother...something I had wanted since I was a little girl playing with my dolls. Today that end goal is, and some may agree and others not, but that end goal is body sculpting...IE plastic surgery. Remember...this is my story and my journey and while things work for others I think the important thing to remember with any journey to rid yourself of addiction is that it's yours personally. You have to want it and you have to figure out what keeps you looking forward and not back at your demons. Now I am not saying I don't have every intention of working my ass off and continuing the hard journey but there are things that childbirth does to your body that are unforgiving...and there are things that overeating does that are even worse. These things...NOT SEXY. Me in a bathing suit....NOT SEXY but...still sexier than me naked...I want to look sexy when naked. I know I am not walking around the streets without clothes on but and listen up...I am not losing weight for those people on the street...I am losing it for me...or more specifically ME...naked in front of my mirror. One of the counselors at my son's camp today grabbed her back fat and said " I've got more rollbacks than Wal-Mart". That is exactly how I feel and half of them do not go away...no matter how hard I work...that flab of skin that I have on my lower stomach....it will not magically disappear. It's skin....it's like inflating a balloon and then watching it look all shriveled up and wondering what happened? Well you blew the damn thing up as far is it would go and then let all the air our you idiot! It can't go back to normal....well lucky for me while I might currently look like a balloon I am not actually a balloon, and eventually when the time comes I can pay someone to put Humpty Dumpty back together again. Today in fact I went to see the person who will most likely be given that charge. Living in FL there are many low cost options for plastic surgery....but those are not options for me. I want the best because one I want to live and two... I want someone who refuses to compromise their professional integrity by completing a surgical procedure on someone who is not ready for that procedure. Along the way I will hopefully introduce you all to this person but for now...I will call him JP. I met JP for the first time today and definitely have to say it was more awkward than my first pap smear. To stand naked in front of a mirror while someone examines your mess of a body makes you feel like puking on their shoes just to distract them. During my consult I was asked about weight...about previous attempts and failures at losing and what I had for breakfast and what I usually have for lunch. At first I thought maybe he thought I ate his previous patient but then he told me about another MD in their office that practices Functional Medicine and this ladies and gentlemen is why I went to this office....and not to what I call a " fat mill". I want a partner in this process that treats the whole person. Now JP's recommendation was to remove some of the bulk...now or if I choose to wait until I have lost some additional weight. This was really about how I feel and if that will help keep me looking forward and not being complacent. He suggest I do this by having some liposuction initially. A 4-Liter lipo to be specific. Ten Pounds....gone! I have spent today thinking about this. There are two schools of thought...one that I am finding my stride in terms of exercise and abdominal lipo would put me out of that routine for a little while from the pain alone. and two that when you spend a small fortune to lose ten pounds you work harder to maintain it...that being said I will be waiting...just a bit but will be seeing his partner for some blood tests to determine if any hormonal issues or hidden food allergies exist. I want to know what is going on inside...I want to know about the biology of my fat I guess. Now I was the first one to admit that I am an emotional eater but family history and symptoms warrant looking deeper. He shared with me a book that I will be reading and updating you all on. Homework from the doctor!! He really recommended it for anyone who is overweight... The Book is called " Your Hidden Food Allergies Are Making You Fat". If you have read it please comment. I would love other opinions.
Part of this journey for me is healing from a lot of the pain that brings me to overeat....I don't feel like I can do that if I don't push myself to accomplish things on my own for now and admitting who I am and taking ownership of that....This blog is my Fatty Bible and those of you who are reading this will see the Sarah B.F. and Sarah A.F.....before and after FAT.
Monday, July 18, 2011
When your mind meets the mirror
Aside from the lack of movement in my arms today was a very good day. First of all I am happy to report that I have lost 2.4 lbs since last week bringing me down to 216.4 officially. Go ahead get up and dance for me....no please do since I can't myself. If you have been following my food journal you know that I ate yummy foods and even had a few cheats in there but I still saw a loss because I made the best choices in each situation. I cut out part of the meal and that is huge. A friend today challenged that I choose this particular plan because it contains foods that I am comfortable with and not " diet foods" but I respectfully disagree. The thing is that I am not on a diet. I am on a journey to changing the way I look at food and the relationship that I have with it. This is a life change...NOT A DIET! Learning to make good choices for snacks and set appropriate portions is something to take me all the way to the bank...the fat bank that is. I plan to deposit for starters 20 lbs in that bank by the end of September. If I could do it before September 10th it would be even better as I am a bridesmaid in my dear friends wedding. Now I by no means want to outshine her but when we were discussing dresses I really imagined she and her sister who are both very thin and gorgeous just tying a string to me and floating me over the house as a marker for incoming guests. Just call me "Zeppelin". As if being a size 14/16 wasn't bad enough I had to order my bridesmaids dress in a size 20...and then to add insult to injury the woman called me three days later to tell me that that large of a size cost an additional $30. It's like a fat tax or something but again these people are getting rich off my big ass. My Fairy Godmother shared something with me today that was said to her when she was still heavy...someone told her that " It's not like people can't look at you and see that you weigh 215lbs". It's SO TRUE. When I began this blog last week none of the response was anyone saying...OMG I HAD NO IDEA...or stop it you are NOT heavy. That is because people saw me for what I AM....it was I who did not. You see when you are heavy there is often a wall of denial up. We talked a lot about denial today and about responsibility. I never looked in the mirror and really saw a Fattycakes until the day I posted my first blog here. I saw a girl who " had a few extra pounds". I definitely see the truth...because I refused to. The thing is....there will always even when I am thin and have conquered this demon be a fat girl inside trying to get out. As with any addiction you are forever an addict and I own that now but I finally can say that I am on my way to cut my addiction off at the legs...that is if a meatloaf sandwich and mashed potatoes had legs. It does not control me ...define me...and it will not kill me!!
I will leave you tonight with one of my favorite passages...one with an ending so fitting this journey...
Out of the Night that Covers me,
Black as the Pit from Pole to Pole,
I thank whatever gods may be,
for my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance,
I have not winced nor cried aloud,
under the bludgeoning of chance,
my head is bloody but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears,
looms but the horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
finds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how straight the gate,
how charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
Sunday's Food
Breakfast:
Half slice french toast
w/sugar free syrup
Arizona Iced Tea Half and Half Lite
Water
Diet coke
Snack:
6 Tortilla Chips with Salsa
Lunch:
JC Personal Pizza
Yogurt
Snack:
Fruit and Yogurt Parfait
Dinner:
1 4oz piece of boneless skinless jerk chicken Breast
Raosted Vegetables
Monday Workout:
22 minutes on the treadmill incline alternating between 2.5 and 6.0
18 minutes on the stationary bike level 10 Intervals for Fat Burning
30 minutes with the Swagmaster- see specific excercises below
Swag set a circuit up for me today consisting of 4 excercises that I had to complete immediately following the previous one...12 reps 3 sets
1.) Incline Pushup
2.) Dumbell punch ( boxing in the air with two 5 lb dumbells)
3.) front and lat raise ( OUCH) 5lbs each
4.) bent over row 35lbs
After this circuit was complete we finished up with abs
50lbs, 12 reps, 3 sets